Condemning & Judgmental vs. Love & Grace

Why do so many people view the church as a place of condemnation and judgment rather than place of love and grace? This is a question I had my small group leaders ask my youth last night. What kind of image do those who don't attend church have of us? And why are Christians seen as condemning and judgmental? This attitude toward believers didn't magically just happen. Something made this image of us take shape.

Here are a few things that come to mind, mistakes that have been made by Christians, and are still being made, that give fuel to the claim that we Christians are condemning and judgmental. Please comment and add to the list:

1. Christians who act disgusted by people with tattoos and piercings.
2. Christians who expect non-Christians to come to them (attend church).
3. Christians who make accusations about people (or a group) based on opinions rather than truth.
4. Christians who say one thing and do another (hypocritical).
5. Christians who attack more than they love (how Christians have related to homosexuals is a good example of that).
6. Christians who value tradition in the church (their mom's way of doing things) more than what's culturally relevant.

I've got more, but here's a start. . .so. . .to be continued.